New member, slight question

Hey, I'm a relatively new member and I've been browsing through many of the articles and posts on this forum as well as many of the Bob Spour videos on youtube and I've begun to start trying to implement many of the psycological techniques implemented, and the other day I came across a situation and I'm wondering if I handled it correctly.

My youngers sister (approximatley 14 y.o) was at a party with guys who were older then her (however younger then myself) they proceeded to give her rum and cokes until she was positively hammered, (apparently she didn't know until she was already drunk). Naturally upon her coming home and finding out what happened it set off a natural trigger and I went bat shit and made my way over there intent on beating these two punks into bloody pulps. I already knew one of them from my football days so when I arrived the two of them freaked out and swore up and down they didn't know whose sister she was. I ended up not taking physical action but despite being home for well over an hour I'm still on my initial adrenal rush, and I'm second guessing whether I've made the right decision or not. The truth is I feel like a bitch for having not taken physical action and these are the types who'll probably react to my threats by taking a larger group and seeking me out, should I have taken action and made my point or was it right to have held back despite the hit to personal pride and the risks I might face? I truly appreciate any help or answers that can be given, thank you very much.

There's a big difference between reacting to a threat placed on you in a decisive way and travelling somewhere to create the encounter yourself.

I have a younger sister, and in my school days spent a lot of time 'protecting her' so I understand the emotion, but you can't be going hunting to hand out punishment beatings mate. I'm pretty sure that's not what Richie has in mind with his material. Self protection and vigilantism are two different things.

If you really think you're at risk of a group attack now as a result of last night's actions you may have to heighten your awareness and practice a little sensible avoidance for a while. Alternatively, you could contact the guys in the cold light of day and calmly explain you didn't appreciate his behaviour and would prefer him to leave your sister alone in future. That might defuse the situation before it escalates.

Incidentally, you can taste rum in coke unless it's in quantities too small to make a difference. I'm not saying the guys weren't at fault, but I am saying it's unlikely your sister didn't know she was drinking. They haven't taken advantage of the situation, which you can be glad of, but they could of done. Make sure SHE learns from the event. That's the bet way you can protect her.

Good luck

Hi Benheazle

nothing to add further from Adams post mate

if you didnt do something when you were right there in the situation then you were probably right not to... thats pretty much the dictum I live by

I think (just my opinion) going round and punching them would of been an over reaction to the situation based on the limited information provided in the case m'lud, it would of been immoral and illegal and possibly got you into lots of headaches over not very much.

hope this helps?